Marriage is a partnership and, as with any partnership, it is important to play to your strengths. You cannot be good at everything, so find out where your individual abilities lie.
Your ‘man’ may like food shopping and cooking. It’s his pleasure to get the weekly shopping on his way home from work and then try that new Nigella Lawson recipe out on you for a Saturday night surprise.
You might love gardening. It’s your hobby and way of switching off, so you can’t wait to pop into the garden centre to buy the new coloured geraniums and trailing verbena to go into your hanging baskets above the porch.
Marriage is about delegating the tasks that need to be done. In the same way an office has a team of people within it who individually play to their strengths, so it should be within your marriage. Enjoy bringing in all the creativity and ideas you have, to grow and strengthen your relationship as it matures.
Don’t forget, no-one can be good at everything, so make sure you set yourself realistic goals of who does what and when, and then ensure it gets done!
- If you both hate doing the same thing e.g. shopping, then maybe shop online or take it in turns.
- Hate gardening? Then do it together and you might have some fun in taking out the flowers and thinking they are weeds!
- Play to your strengths and not your weaknesses as this will bring about a stronger partnership.
- As much as you might like to be great at everything, accept that you can’t be ‘all things to all people’. Just be yourself and exploit your natural talents.
Guest post by Carole Spiers, Love and Relationship Expert
Image from Sam Gibson Photography